The person who you decide to be with has a huge influence in your life consciously and subconsciously.
Do You Realize Your Highest Potential?
A good question to ask yourself from time to time in your relationship is: Are you realizing your highest potential being with him?
No one is perfect, but you want to be with someone who wants only the best for you. He wants you to live a full life and be deeply satisfied in every area of your life. He feels happy when he sees you going after your dreams and fulfilling your desires.
You should also be doing the same for him.
Is He Trying to Change You for his Own Selfish Desires?
This question can be tricky. I don’t mean things like telling you to use a different shampoo. Or suggesting to do something different that he feels would be better for you, but still leaving the choice to you.
I have often given my opinion to my guy that he would look nice in a particular jacket or shirt. But I wasn’t trying to change him. I felt happiness in seeing him look his best. If other women looked at him, it made be burst with pride. Though I offered my suggestions, I never tried to enforce my opinions on him. He did the same for me.
But this becomes dangerous territory when your guy starts being condescending and telling you to lose weight or change your dressing style only to suit his selfish needs. If he makes you feel he can’t be with you if you don’t change something about yourself, then it’s time to exit. This is not a healthy relationship.
Have you experienced this? How did you deal with it? Please share with me in the comments.