This must have happened to you at some point. I remember I had decided to quit my job last year to make time to write my novel Enchanted Silence. My parents were not happy with my decision.
I Remember Their Reactions
Are you crazy? But what about your rent? What are you going to do once your book is complete?
How did I react? I argued with them. I said I’m tired of recruiting and I want my life to be more than going to an office. I told them I didn’t want to live the lives they did. Ouch! They weren’t too happy with my responses.
A Better, More Effective Solution…
Don’t try to convince them. Even if they don’t agree with your decision or viewpoints, they still love you and are looking after your best interest.
If you truly have made up your mind and believe in your decision, then don’t convince them. After all, they are entitled to their opinion.
Try a different approach. Tell them you are going ahead with your decision, but explain to them your reasons.
I said: “Mom and Dad, I understand your reasons. But I want to give my novel a shot. I’m not getting enough time working full-time and I’m tired after work. I don’t have any kids or am married yet, I don’t have too much responsibility. I don’t want to think about what could have been. I could finish the novel in two to three months and and always have the option to go get another job.”
See, you’re explaining to your parents why this is important to you and also letting them know it’s not permanent (although it may be in your mind). You also gave them an alternative solution as well, so they feel better about the whole thing.
Have you had this experience? How did you respond? Please share with me in the comments.
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