Going through a break up is not easy. It doesn’t matter who ended the relationship, it affects both people. You may have started your relationship with dreams in your eyes, but it didn’t turn out the way you expected. You find yourself filled with sadness and confusion.
What do You Do in this Situation? How do You find Happiness Again?
It’s important you start accepting the break up. It’s the only way to move forward and find peace of mind again.
Give Yourself Time
Whether you want to cry or eat an entire bucket of ice cream, do whatever you want that will help you unleash all the overwhelming emotions in you. This is an important step. Don’t rush to feeling good and pretending that you are fine.
It’s better to accept you’ve fallen apart and fully feel the confusion and turmoil. Cry whenever you want and let the pain out.
I’ve spent several nights crying to the wee hours of the morning, but I have to say all the crazy emotions flushed out when I did this.
Pull out a journal and write how you’re feeling. Write whatever your heart desires. Use your journal as your private sacred space. Your feelings are real, so start jotting them down.
Practice Letting Go
When you’ve unleashed your emotions and taken the time to deal with the pain in your heart, let your mind think about why this happened. Do this with a curious Zen like detachment. There are always reasons for any break up.
Was it because someone was not faithful? Did you two want different things? Was the physical or emotional connection not there? Reflect about these reasons. It will help you to accept what happened and start practicing letting go of this relationship.
Have Space Away from Your Him
Make sure during this process that you have no contact with him. This will only take you back and recreate all sorts of feelings in you. If he still persists in contacting you or wanting to be friends, then tell him clearly that you want to move forward and though you respect him, it’s important he give you space. And you should do the same for him.
Start Healthy Habits
In the beginning stage, you may have eaten burgers or gulped a whole bucket of ice cream. You may have gotten drunk many nights, too. But after some time, you need to start to focus on eating healthy and working out.
You’ll start to develop a routine again and a sense of discipline will return to your life. You’ll also socialize and meet other people which will cause you to feel better.
Focus on Things that Bring You Happiness
Lastly, create moments of happiness for you again. It could mean watching your favorite television sitcom and laughing until you cry. Focus on your happiness again.
You can start to do things that boost your confidence. Maybe you love salsa dancing and it makes you feel sexy. Go out and do that! For myself, I started socializing and diving myself into my writing. It creates this magical, beautiful feeling in me.
Remember you deserve happiness and you’ll have moments where you may not feel great, but embrace them. The perfect relationship will enter your life when it’s the right time. In the mean while, live your best life!
What has been your experience? How did you find happiness again? Please share with me in the comments.