I recently had a situation where I was verbally attacked by someone. I received an email that was not pleasant. My blood boiled. Without boring you with the details, she made assumptions about me and jumped to conclusions. I knew her for some time and usually I didn’t respond back to her because I felt it was best to let it go than confront her.
But what do you do when the line is crossed? Do you let it go or finally respond?
Believe In Yourself
If something similar happens to you and the limit is crossed, then you must believe in yourself and speak up. It doesn’t matter if you stayed quiet earlier or didn’t say much.
You can stand your ground now and say something.
Don’t Doubt Your Feelings
Every time, I became hurt, then immediately afterwards, I felt a tinge of guilt. I doubted my emotions. And then I closed up. I would tell myself: Maybe I’m making a big deal out of this. Maybe she didn’t mean to say what she said.
Well, that is not an excuse for anyone to say things that hurt your feelings! Own your feelings.
Be Clear, Polite, and Firm
So I wrote a crisp and clear email to the person in question. I told her I did not appreciate her words and that she did not have the right to enforce her opinions and judgments on me.
It was a short and sweet email. This is a simple solution for you to do. When you do this, it shows you have limits and set your boundaries. How will someone stop or know you are not happy if you do not express your displeasure? Remember whether you verbally communicate or through email, be calm and polite, yet direct in your communication.
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