Give and take is a normal part of every relationship. A healthy dose of it is required. But when does compromising become too much in a relationship?
I have seen friends who stayed in relationships only because they were afraid to lose the person and kept on perpetuating unhealthy patterns.
Saving a Relationship through Compromise
Many women start compromising to save a relationship. It starts off with letting go the little things and pretty soon, before you know it, you’re starting to overlook the big things. This is usually driven by a strong fear.
I had a friend who knew her boyfriend at the time was cheating on her and when she was confronted with concrete evidence, she chose to overlook it. She would start coming up with reasons about how she was over thinking and start to listen to his demands more. Ladies, this is a major clue.
When you start to come from a place of fear instead of love in your relationship constantly, you are compromising and not in an unhealthy relationship.
Not Meeting Your Own Needs
When you start to be more focused about fulfilling the other person’s needs and desires instead of yours, then you’re stuck in an unhealthy relationship.
When you’re ready to put your needs aside and be unhappy just to make sure your partner’s happy, that’s not a good sign.
It’s important you give and make sure your partner is happy, but make sure your desires are being met. Make sure you are with someone who wants to do the same for you. If not, then exit out gracefully, take the wisdom from the lesson, and move forward.
Have you compromised in a relationship? Please share with me in the comments.