I had a chat with a friend over the long weekend. One of the topics that arose was the importance of physical chemistry in a relationship. She told me she had been dating a guy for two months. They did what any couple did – go on dates and get to know each other.

Everything seemed to be great. He had a great sense of humor, vibrant personality, and was polite. He had a good job, working as a software engineer. I was thrilled for her!

I like him, BUT ONLY…

Then, she uttered, “But…” I jumped in and asked her what was it. And then she let the cat out of the bag. She wasn’t attracted to him. She felt embarrassed, but she just didn’t feel any physical chemistry on their dates. She didn’t feel good for saying this and didn’t want to come across as shallow, but she couldn’t help how she felt.

Do you have physical chemistry with him?

When you are dating someone, it’s important to take into consideration everything – personality, looks, job, stability, and physical attraction. I’ve gone on my fair share of dates and if there’s one thing I have realized is: you cannot force physical chemistry. Most of the time, it’s there instantly. Of course, if it isn’t there right away, you can continue knowing the guy and see if you have it after some time. However, if after an extended period of time, you don’t feel any physical chemistry, then that may be something you need to reconsider…

Physical chemistry can exist without growing into love, but love cannot grow without this intense attraction.

Have you felt instant physical chemistry with someone? Or maybe you did not? What did you do in this situation? Please share in the comments.