I am an Indian American woman and I wanted to share my views on sex and sexuality from the perspective of a woman and an Indian woman. But I want to note that these are MY views personally! And I definitely don’t intend to enforce my views or be insensitive in any way.
I am a twenty-eight years old woman and starting to feel more comfortable with my sexuality. It doesn’t have to do with only with the act of sex, but that sexual energy that comes in the way I carry myself, dress, my body language, and many more aspects.
Indian Views are Conservative
Growing up, there was absolutely no mention of sex in my family. In fact, I remember there was a Hindi song playing on television and the lyrics kept repeating the words “Sexy, sexy” and my mom quickly changed the channel.
My dad’s face became flushed red. I didn’t even know what “sexy” meant at the time, but I realized that sexiness or sex had a hidden and forbidden vibe.
Sex was Forbidden Until Marriage Without Ever Being Spoken
Though sex screamed at me through television and movies, I knew it was something I could do only until marriage. Not that my parents had enforced their views on me, but growing up, I knew this is what is accepted in my family and society.
As I Grew Older, I Adopted an Open Attitude to Sex
After graduating from university, I spent several years working at offices. I met people from different walks of life and I started to develop my own views on sex. I used to feel it should be done only before marriage, but now I feel this is a very personal choice.
If you decide to wait until marriage, that’s great. If not, that’s fine, too. Sex is a natural part of being a woman and human being. It’s a beautiful way to express love and care in a relationship. Also, I feel comfortable in expressing my sensuality through my dressing, speech, and body language now.
What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments.