When I was growing up and even until recently, my family liked to keep what was going on at home private. It had to be a total secret. The challenges had to be preserved only within my family. I can understand that point of view. It’s easier and sometimes helpful to just internalize those feelings and challenges.
Are You Keeping Secrets?
If the answer is yes and especially during trying times, keeping your challenges and what’s going on in your life can trouble you. The pain and emotions you feel gets all internalized. And without your realization, it turns into shame.
Voicing Your Feelings is the Best Thing You Can Do
This shame eats away at your self-esteem and self-worth. You are crumbling inside, but since you can’t express your challenges and pain openly, you start to create facades. You pretend everything is alright.
This habit has been ingrained in me since childhood. My parents to some extent have created this. I also take responsibility for it. I became embarrassed and shameful about when I was going through challenging moments.
It’s only when I realized this: Voicing your feelings is the greatest gift you can do for yourself. Get yourself help. Talk to a friend. Journal about it. Do whatever it requires to get things out of your system.
Own Your Truth
Your challenging experiences are nothing to be ashamed about. Your pain is nothing to be shamed about. You are a complete human being, so you will have complete experiences. You will feel pain, love, confusion, happiness, sadness. Own your truth instead. It sets you free.
What is your biggest takeaway from this post? Please share with me in the comments!