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Why I Decided Not to Work with a Business Coach (Right Now!) + Living in the Unknown

November 29, 2015 by Priyanka 2 Comments

Towards the end of the year, I always plan out my upcoming year. I’m like Monica from Friends who loves making lists and ticking items off.   It gives me immense pleasure. I’m a dork like that. But I noticed a different energy arising as I tried to do the same for next year.

Thrive in Living in the Unknown

Thrive in Living in the Unknown

One of the Items on My List was Working with a Business Coach.

I wasn’t feeling inspired nor enthusiastic. Usually, I do this with much energy and zeal. But this time, it felt out of alignment. It felt out of flow. I had no idea why initially. This change in my feelings had been bugging me for the last two weeks.

I have been focusing on my work and family commitments a lot recently, so I thought that could be part of the reason, but still this niggled at me. I couldn’t completely fathom why. I was also working on submitting a deeply personal essay to the Modern Love column in the New York Times around this time, too.

I had written the whole essay and went to Starbucks over and over to perfect it. As I edited this essay, I felt resistance.

I would keep taking breaks and just couldn’t write with feeling. I felt frustrated and even annoyed. Why couldn’t I write this essay and create my plan for 2016? Why couldn’t I just get done with it?

I took a deep breath and went to the gym. I ran on the treadmill, letting every stride work my body and letting the resistance wash away. My body stretched and worked itself during the run. I felt better. I felt invigorated. I came home and fell into a deep nap.

When I woke up, my body had softened. I felt softer and more open. I realized why I had been feeling resistant towards creating my plan for 2016 and submitting this essay.

I was pushing and striving too hard. What if I just relaxed and let go of my plan? Why did I have to do these things before 2015 ended? Why was I placing too much pressure on myself to do this?

I was trying to control the process and outcome because it made me feel in control. I liked being in control. It made me feel safe and secure. It made me feel like everything was in order. I thought back to every year I had created my list. Yes, many items had been completed, but every year had taken on its own flow and energy.

No matter how much I had tried to control the external events and circumstances, my life took on the twists and turns it needed to, without my permission.

So Then I Made a Bold Decision.

I was not going to make this list. I was not going to work with a business coach like I had initially planned in 2016. I was going to scrap this Modern Love essay. I was just going to surrender to the present moment, take a deep breath, and let my life unfold moment by moment instead. I was going to live in the unknown and let my energy guide 2016.

I wanted to work with a business coach because I was passionate about my writing and creativity and wanted to use the expertise and knowledge of a business coach to guide me as I created an online business and platform to share my work.

But it felt like I was pushing and controlling too much. I could feel myself creating expectations for myself already. I had to meet specific numbers and metrics. This is not why I want to work with a business coach.

I want to work with a business coach because I want to share my soul’s message and guidance to others through creative and spirit-driven work.  I want to create a heart-driven platform to live out my purpose and share my innate gifts with the world.  Why?  Because this is my soul’s desire and I must honor it. 

I wanted to walk my talk, so I decided to put my plans of working with a business coach on hold. I would love to work with one someday. This is going to be one of the most amazing investments I will make for myself both, business wise and personal.

But right now, I can feel with every ounce of my being that focusing on my personal growth and life is more important at the moment.  I am going to create powerful pieces of my writing and share with you.  I am going to smell the flowers and allow myself to enjoy the simple things in life.  I am going to immerse myself in my stillness and let myself transform through my own spiritual purity.  I am going to live in the unknown from a space of love and see how my 2016 unfolds moment by moment.

So in order to let my life unfold moment by moment and drop the need to have a plan to be in supposed control, I decided I am going to follow three specific practices day by day.  Some days, I will succeed beautifully.  Other days, I may not even follow one practice.  But that is not the point.

The point is to start out each day with the divine intention to live guided by my energy and intuitive whispers and let the day end with me living honestly, not measuring any external outcome or metric, but by how much inner peace I feel.

Fall in Love with the Present Moment

Instead of worrying about what I should or could be doing, I am going to enjoy the present moment to the fullest.  When I am at work completing a task I wouldn’t find much joy in, I am going to find the beauty in it and be intensely aware as I do my work.

When I am not in the mood and feeling melancholic, I am going to allow myself to feel the emotions strongly.  I am going to be in the moment even then.  When I am with a man, I am going to revel in his attention and passion and provide him with the gift of me being present completely with him in that precious moment.  When I am writing, I am going to write with feeling.

Because as Eckhart Tolle has wisely said, there is no past or future.  All I have in front of me is this moment and that is my life at that time.

Revel in Living in the Unknown

I like to have a plan to be control and dictate the unfoldings of my life.  But when have I ever been in control even when I did have a “plan?”  If anything, I linked my self-worth to external people and events.  I did this because I was scared of not knowing what was going to happen.  It terrified me.

But why does living in the unknown have to be scary?  Why can’t it be exciting, adventurous, and beautiful?  So I am going to accept that my fears will crop up from time to time while living in the unknown, but I am going to allow myself to revel in living in the unknown.

I am going to see what gifts and miracles life wants to give me and receive them with arms wide open.  I am going to take nuggets of wisdom and lessons from every experience, no matter if it isn’t what I would have chosen for myself. Why?  Because life knows better than me and I am going to embrace the experience wholeheartedly. It is meant for my transformation.

Place the Search for Abundance Inward Instead of Outside

Lastly, it is scary to live in the unknown because we base our self-worth on the attainment of certain desires and events.  When true abundance resides in your heart and soul, you won’t feel the need to be validated by an external person or event.

I will practice this search for abundance inside by meditating, taking walks, journaling, writing, carving out time in my schedule to do things I enjoy and feel peaceful, and honoring my desires no matter how simple.  I will feel gratitude for every single person and experience in my life.  I want to find a deep sense of serenity inward and enjoy material things and relationships coming from a space of love, lightness, and play, instead of need and attachment.

Have you dropped a plan in your life that made you feel out of control, but it felt right?  How did it make you feel when you started living grounded in the present, letting your inner guidance lead your actions and being?  Please share with me in the comments!

 

Image source: The EveryGirl

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5 Ways for a 20-Something to Network Successfully

March 31, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Networking sometimes has a icky feel to it. Maybe it’s just too uncomfortable and awkward to engage in it.

Networking Successfully in Your Twenties

Networking Successfully in Your Twenties

But I firmly believe knowing how to network can make a huge difference to your career and life. Often, the people you know and develop relationships with are the key to the projects you take on.

It’s how you grow and open your eyes. Being a 20-something myself, I want to share some easy ways that might help you to pull yourself out of the comfort zone.

Be Genuine

When you’re at events geared toward networking, be yourself. Be sincere. This doesn’t have to be an uncomfortable experience.

Do what you feel comfortable with. Just like you wouldn’t want anyone to bombard questions or sound one dimensional, you want to make sure you come across to others exactly the way you would want to be approached yourself.

Networking is mostly about conversing and finding a natural flow of energy back and forth between you and the person. When you two click, chances are it will open the door to building a relationship. And this is what can lead to opportunities.

Engage on Social Media

If the idea of mingling in person scares you, then you can try another approach. You can find people on Twitter, Facebook, and even Instagram and send them a friendly note or like or comment on their updates.

Ask Friends/Contacts to Introduce You to People

You can always talk to your friends and contacts in the business you are looking to grow in and ask them to refer or introduce you to people.

Usually, having someone else who knows the person you would like to grow a relationship with helps to ease you and creates a more natural, easygoing interaction.

Join Meet Ups

Interestingly, I have met several wonderful people at Meet Ups. While I was writing my novel Enchanted Silence, I joined Meet Up groups where I met fellow writers.

Last year, I had joined a marketing Meet Up and met interesting people who I became friends with and built relationships with. We worked with each other on guest blogging and driving more traffic to our websites. It was a win-win for everyone involved!

Socialize

Sometimes, the best way you can connect with people is when you go out to a bar or restaurant or some party/get together to hang out and relax together.

It’s more fun and easier to learn more about one another in casual, comfortable environments!

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments.

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4 Tips In Moving and Settling Into a New City

February 27, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Have you just moved to a new city? Or are you considering to make the move? Several of my friends have recently moved to different cities and some even to completely new countries.

Adjusting to A New City

Adjusting to A New City

Here are some easy tips you can use to help you settle into your new city!

Meet Friends Through Acquaintances

Ask your co-workers, acquaintances, and family members to connect you with anyone they know in your new city. When you meet them, you can mingle with their friends. This way, you can build a network of people.

Join Organized Groups

Join Meet Ups or organized groups in your city to meet strangers. You can join organized groups in your choice of interest and connect with them. You’ll meet some great people through this way!

Give Yourself Time to Acclimate

Just like with anything, give yourself six to twelve months to adjust to a new city. It takes time to get accustomed to a new city. It will take time to get know people and build a network. Over time, you will find yourself enjoying yourself and not even remember when you moved.

Try New Spots and Restaurants

My favorite thing to do when I visit any new place is to try new restaurants! I also like to figure out where all the happening spots are and go there to meet new people and have a grand time.

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments!

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How to Be Productive When Working at Home – 6 Easy Tips

February 25, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

When I first got a work at home job, I was excited! I thought it would be so easy to work from home. I thought it would be fun, too. Boy, was I wrong. Within a week, I realized this was not as easy and breezy as I thought. It takes some conscious steps and awareness to balance your work and personal lives.

Being Productive While Working From Home

Being Productive While Working From Home

Here are some tips I want to share that I learned from my work from home position:

Schedule Important Tasks in the Morning

I learned that my day was way more productive when I scheduled the most important things to do in the morning. This way, I got them out of the way.

Later in the day, when I got lazy or distracted, I still made great progress.

Make a List of What You Want to Tackle That Day

I made to-do lists in the morning or the day before about what I wanted to accomplish that day. When you start your day with a plan of action, you are automatically way more focused and get more done.

Take Short Breaks Throughout the Day

One of the benefits of working at an office is you can easily take breaks. You can go to a co-worker or step outside for a coffee break. What do you do when you’re working from home? You actually end up working more. And I got tired of being in my house the entire day.

So I started to take short breaks throughout the day. I would make myself a cup of tea and snack and take a walk outside. I would check my mail. It rejuvenated me.

Keep a Separate Work Space

I also set aside a specific space in my apartment for my work. I set my computer, pencils, pens, and note pad on the table. It helped me get into “work” mode faster.

Eat Healthy

Eating healthy and nutritious food is vital. I snack on fruits and vegetables and crackers. I’ll try to make healthy meals so I can have more energy throughout the day.

Prepare Your Work Environment

Of course, keep an adequate supply of paper, pens, staples, etc. on hand in case you need it.

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments!

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Smiles for the People :) Buy One Toothbrush And Help Champion A Cause!

February 22, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Did You Know That Dentists Believe We Need a New Toothbrush Every 3 Months? I didn’t! In fact, I must change my toothbrush every 9 months instead. Well, here’s where Smiles for the People comes up. I recently heard about this company at a Meet Up I had joined. This company sells toothbrushes, but only from environmentally responsible materials and are built to endure.

Smiles for the People: A Company that Makes A Difference

Smiles for the People: A Company that Makes A Difference

But besides just selling toothbrushes, it goes deeper than that. It champions the cause that everyone in the world needs access to public health services and especially proper dental hygiene.

When you buy a toothbrush from Smiles for the People, it will give away a toothbrush to someone in need. But it goes even beyond that. It partners with organizations that share a similar vision and will use the funds exactly the way their partners and organizations would like. It can be for opening a new clinic, buying supplies, or running community outreach programs.

http://www.smilesforthepeople.com/

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Smiles4People

Next time you need a new toothbrush, please consider buying one from Smiles for the People. You’d be surprised how many people you can reach through one toothbrush.

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments!

* This blog post appeared originally on My Pure Intuition

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