There is a need to announce or put a label on everything these days. People use Facebook as a way to announce relationships or break ups or other important events in their lives.

While it is important and exciting to announce things going on in your life, I see an intrinsic value in being private about certain things in your life.

I am a very social person and have friends and acquaintances from many different walks of life. I end up going to several social events and get-togethers. It’s wonderful to go out and meet my friends and have a fun time with them. Obviously, you discuss what’s going on in your life. I believe you should share important pieces of your life, but you do not need to fully share all the details.

Here’s Why:

Protect Your Emotions

I am an emotional person and though I may not come across that way, I’m uncomfortable displaying everything about my life so openly. Sometimes, I am not sure about what’s going to happen in my own life or how a relationship is going to turn out. So I feel like I should protect my emotions.

If something doesn’t turn out the way you expected, I don’t want to be asked the same question over and over by people, no matter how well-meaning. I’m also allowing myself to have a clear picture of the situation and not being influenced by others.

Allow Things to Manifest Naturally

There is a certain energy attached to a relationships or event in your life. I believe that you should protect and nurture that energy. If something wonderful is in the works in your life, you should keep it private and allow the manifestation process to unfold organically.

This could be anything in your life. It could be a new job you’re interviewing for or perhaps you’re considering marriage with your boyfriend. These are serious decisions that require lots of thought. This way, you do not let any negative energy get in the way and allow whatever it is you want to manifest to happen magically and naturally.

What value do you see in being private about your life and relationships? Please share with me in the comments.

I really wanted to share this post with you because it’s something everyone encounters on a daily basis. Consciously or subconsciously, there are certain things that cause us to emotionally react. It may relate to a specific experience from childhood or past.

When your brain feels something has been taken away from you, your emotions are triggered. These emotional reactions can also be called emotional triggers.

What triggers you?

Figure out what triggers you. Is it acceptance, balance, control, attention, freedom, or comfort? The list can go longer. These needs are perfectly alright to have. They served you at some point in your life, so they exist in your life. But it is critical to determine if you are becoming attached to these needs.

Some people have a need for control and anything or anyone that threatens to take that away triggers them to emotionally react. This may have arose because some experience in their past or childhood led them to believe that control means being successful or happy or establishing a safe environment.

Be Honest

It’s essential you figure out what triggers you. It’s great to have these needs, but you must gauge why it carries emotional charge for you. Does it link to another experience? You want to make sure that your needs are genuinely not being met, so it’s rational for you to emotionally react. Or are you being unreasonable and perhaps taking the situation too personally?

By understanding what triggers you, you have a greater emotional understanding of yourself.

What emotionally triggers you? Do you find certain needs carry an emotional charge for you? Please share with me in the comments.

Have you felt angry with something a loved one said? Or was it something your boyfriend said? I have felt this on more than one occasion. My typical reaction is just to ignore my feelings and behave as if nothing happened and didn’t bother me at all.

Expressing Your Emotions Allows You to Feel Free

I used to think that I was being unreasonable if I let the other person know something they said or did bothered me. It also had to do with my fear of being vulnerable. When you express something, you also show you care in some ways. I wanted to act like I was Super Woman and didn’t have feelings.

But the breaking point always came. When I couldn’t handle any more, then I would explode. And then I would be an emotional mess. Usually, the person would say to me: But I never knew you felt this way.

The aftermath of the explosion? I felt free and open. Though it was emotionally taxing to explode in this fashion, I felt this strange serenity take over me. It felt good to express myself.

Happier Relationships and More Open Communication

When you express yourself, you’ll find your relationships will be happier. There will be open communication and you’ll feel great about communicating your needs and desires.

Here are some ways to do this:

• Show emotions with your facial expressions
• Set aside time (when you are cool & collected) to have an open conversation with the person
• Talk to a friend to express your feelings
• Write in your journal

Have you tried any of these tips? How did you feel afterwards? Please share in the comments.