Firstly, what are the qualities of a commitment phobic men? Why are they like that? Is it possible for them to change? If you ever crossed paths with one, these questions may have entered your mind.
A Commitment Phobic Man Has a Fear of Commitment
There is an unhealthy emotion or image attached to commitment. Even though he may be attracted or even in love with the woman in question, he can’t commit because there are too many fears bundled in him. He becomes anxious and may even panic when any topic or action even remotely reeks of commitment because in his mind he has associated it to not having his freedom.
Why is he like that? There are many possible reasons. He didn’t come from a stable home. He went through some deeply traumatic experience as a child that caused him to develop an unhealthy image of relationships and intimacy.
Talk to Him
If you’re seeing a man who is commitment phobic, then have a honest, open conversation with him. Tell him how you feel. Listen to him patiently while he tells you how he feels. This is the first step to deal with it together as a couple.
Tell Him to Deal with his Inner Fears
The ironic thing about a commitment phobic man is that even though he may be with the woman of his dreams, his fear may be greater than his desire to be in an intimate relationship. The only way this can change is when he stops running away from his fears, breaks his patterns of intimacy, and actually deals with all his fears.
Don’t Compromise Your Own Worth and Dreams
You can be supportive, but there is only so much you can do. Unless he doesn’t put in the work and want to deal with his own fears, there’s not much you can do. If you do want marriage and a healthy relationship, then give yourself time and also be clear to the man you are seeing. Don’t compromise on your own worth.
Have you had this experience? What did you do? Please share with me in the comments.