Merry Christmas Eve! I wanted to share my experience with a life coach. I had one session last week. I enrolled in a transformation program and a single life coaching session was offered. I scheduled the appointment two months in advance.
When the day arrived, I had my computer and phone ready with Skype logged on. I had never done anything like this, but I was looking forward to the experience. Butterflies circled in my stomach. I was excited and nervous all at the same time.
I got a cup of warm water and set it on my desk. I closed my room and dimmed the lights. My life coach Connie Chapman popped up on the screen.
My Aha Moment!
Hours before, I had filled the questionnaire and answered pointed questions about the topics I wanted to concentrate on during my session.
She was gentle and soft and started off the session asking me how I was feeling. The timing could not be any more perfect. Last week was intense, in terms of work and my personal life. I quit my job and it was my last day at work. The Holidays were beckoning and I was in the midst of many changes in my life.
After some questions, we spoke a lot about my relationship with my family. I talked openly and honestly, mentioning how I loved my family and the challenges that came about from my father’s stroke. I felt I had to always be responsible and have it together.
Suddenly, I Burst into Tears and Choked Up
I couldn’t speak. The words weren’t forming. I tried to hold back the tears. I was a tiny bit embarrassed. But Connie, she was beautiful and lovely, she was silent and let me go through my moment. That was my aha moment because in that moment everything shifted. I became real and raw. I dove deep into my heart.
I spoke how I’m close to my parents and being the eldest has caused this conflict in me. I have trouble expressing my emotions. I revealed how post my father’s stroke, I was the only one in the family who barely cried. I cried only in solitude. I took much effort to have it together. I spoke how this spilled over into all areas of my life.
It was exhausting! I had this inner conflict where I was at odds with what I wanted and what my family wanted.
She told me some pieces about her personal life and gentle guided me to the realization that most of it was internally in my head. That if I actually owned up to my desires and did express my desires to my family, they would be supportive. I wrapped myself up in this inner conflict. To some extent, I created it myself.
Owning My Desires and Showing Up Fully
She was right. That was true. I had developed this tendency since childhood where I felt guilty about my desires. And I was the one who over worried about what my family thought. I used them as an excuse in many ways.
I felt my body relax as I said all this. I had never had this type of experience with anyone. It was only one session, but I noticed an instant spark and change in me. I became more of myself.
She advised me to pay attention to how my body responded and my feelings. We talked about using dancing as a tool to loosen up and be connected to my self. I could even record videos on my computer and ask myself how I felt.
Working with a Life Coach was a Gorgeous Experience! I’d Sign Up for a Longer Period!
It was a beautiful experience. I’m thrilled and happy I kept myself open. It was only one hour, but transforming. I can’t imagine what would happen if I signed up for a longer period – say like three or six months.
I highly recommend anyone to go through an experience like this – even if only a complimentary session. I am still feeling the after effects of being relaxed and free. I intend to definitely sign up for a more extensive life coaching next year!
What is your biggest takeaway from this post? Please share with me in the comments!