I felt fear often in my life. It was linked to not feeling good enough. I wanted and needed affirmation and appreciation from my family and others. I wanted it from a man. I wanted it from strangers.

Focusing On Loving Yourself

But you can’t get love from loved ones, a man, and others. Or from material objects and possessions. That becomes like a bottomless pit. There is still a void in you.

The only way you can fill yourself up with love is by loving yourself. You must focus on loving yourself for everything you are and accepting yourself wholeheartedly.

Take It Step By Step

Building your confidence is not easy. It is a step by step process. It is a journey.

You can journal your thoughts and feelings. You can do things that make you happy. Do you like to dance? Do you like to write? Do you like to hike?

You can also say affirmations to yourself. For example: You can tell yourself how beautiful and loving you are.

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What Are Your Strengths?

The goal is to focus on your strengths. It’s to acknowledge all of your beautiful qualities. And more importantly, it’s to accept your flaws as well and love all of you.