If I had to pick one lesson I learned through my dating and relationships, I would say: Love is A Choice. Yes, love just happens and you can’t control who you fall in love with. But after that, to continue to be in love is not some random, serendipitous occurrence. It’s a freaking choice.

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Love is A Choice – More Than a Feeling

Once you fall in love, it’s a choice to be with each other. I remember not getting a phone call or hearing from him as I usually did and it made me jittery. I witnessed the same in my friends. What if scenarios would start playing in our heads. He would call and then I would be fine. Next week, I was back to feeling insecure and jittery.

It’s when I realized that though anything can happen and it’s a gigantic chance two people are taking with each other, it’s ultimately a choice they are making to be with each other. To be together. To spend time together. To take time out to be intrigued by one another. To do something different every week so you can keep the excitement churning.

Why would two people do these things? Because they want to be together. And that’s a choice.

Love is a Journey, Not a Destination

Anything can happen any day to any couple or relationship. I hear people cite the divorce statistic that more than 50 % of marriages are falling apart in modern day America all the time. But what about the other 50 % of couples? There are plenty of couples who are happily married and retaining their individuality, yet we don’t hear enough about these couples.

Love is a journey after all, not a destination. Loving yourself and someone else requires a commitment to do it every moment.

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